I was touched by his words and how strongly they resonated with my experiences over the past 25 years. On its face, the invitation to be self-aware and to embody our authenticity in the workplace seems simple. But the realities of evolving into a leadership role can present many enticing moments to be like someone else, to ignore that gut feeling and step away from what is deeply held as our values, our ethics. There are the unwritten rules of the organization, the stories about the need to “manage up,” the pressures of meeting this quarter’s numbers, the calls to “do something” even when patience is the better course, and the statements about what “everyone” is doing in the marketplace as justification for actions that are “gray.” It takes strength and courage to stand in “who I am” at moments like this. But when we don’t, a little piece of us is lost forever. The journey to know who we really are is sometimes long, and often surprising. It can begin with a couple of simple questions. What are my leadership principles? What are those values that are my rudder in the midst of the storms? When I teach retreats with the Institute for Mindful Leadership, we explore this question as a reflection. We sit quietly, allowing the body and mind to settle into the present, and then I invite the leaders to simply notice what arises when the questions are spoken. I invite the group to allow the first, reflexive answers to be put aside, and just continue to notice what else might arise in the stillness. This practice is then followed by an exploration of one more question: “what do we notice when our actions as leaders do not align with these principles?” If you care to, give this reflection a try. What did you discover?
